Are you thinking of giving a second chance to a relationship?
If you’re like me, you feel that there’s always a way out of love. If you really love and care about someone, I believe there are ways to make it work and fix things. You might be scared, several times, to get into a relationship again after that person’s first hurt. I believe in second chances, and personally, I’ve seen a lot of marriages break apart just to get closer again. If you’re worried of giving your significant other a second chance, here are few stuff you need to know that will help lead you down the right path.
Well, know your importance.
Before we get into something, it’s important for you to note that you are the most important person in the world. If you are abused sexually, psychologically or psychologically, this relationship is not for you. Nothing positive will come out of violence. You have a responsibility to build your own life and to give yourself up to someone who likes and cares about you. It’s important to note that you want someone who really makes you feel amazing every day and lifts you up. In all this, you need to care of yourself and make a vow to save your heart for someone who needs it. Dream of the future. Ask yourself, I’m going to be happier with this person? Is this person going to make a successful husband, wife or partner?
Take the time to talk.
Believe it or not, the most effective way to get in contact with someone isn’t in the bedroom. It continues with feeling each other on an emotional basis. Meaningful interactions with each other will bring you closer together. Physical attraction comes and goes, but conversation and emotional connection is what is really permanent and solid. Tell the questions. Show the person you’re really caring for them and what’s going on in their lives. When you ask them questions, you understand more about them and make them open up to you in a more positive way.
Maybe give yourself a second chance.
If you are rekindling a friendship, note that a relationship is only good if two parties work there. Just when you give the person a second chance, you still need to give yourself a second chance. Let go of expectations and concentrate on just enjoying and reconnecting with that person. Don’t take that as an exam. Most people think, “I’m not going to call him back. Let’s see if he’s going to contact me,” or, “I don’t do anything anymore. If she wants to have a friendship, let her prove to me.” In the end, that’s only going to set yourself up for disappointment. In order for it to succeed, both of you need to try and make it work and respect and enjoy each other. This isn’t a test; it’s a second chance.
Open your heart to trust you.
Trust is the secret to reconnecting to those you love. If you’re snooping in the drawers or searching their phone for texts when they’re in the shower, you’ll never be able to completely open your spirit. Trust may be frightening, but it’s a risk you’ll take when you really love and care for others. Trust starts with you and has deep faith in you. If you can’t trust a person at the beginning of a relationship, how are you going to do that later in life? Confidence is the greatest gift that a person can offer. It’s a building stone that strengthens the friendship and builds a base for years to come. Don’t be afraid to put your heart out there if you want to rebuild things. If you really love this person, it will be worth it in the end.
Let go of what’s gone wrong.
It’s one of the hardest things you can do to let go of what went wrong, but it’s the most important step. If you live in the past, you will never be able to live in the future. Sometimes it’s hard because you didn’t do anything wrong. Try to work with your significant other by talking about it. Let them know that you’re hurting, let them apologize, and let them go together so that you can get back to a stronger relationship as you start again. A second chance is a gift you don’t have any strings attached to it, because you really love a person more than any past mistakes or hurts.
Work on making things a little better.
The best thing you can do when you re-enter a relationship is to have fun with that person. Nobody wants to get back to boring. You want to enjoy the company of that person. Go for a cup of coffee and a stroll around or attend an event together. There are times of intimacy and communicating with a person in a more positive way. Simple stuff in life, like going to ice cream or cooking at home and trying a new bottle of wine, will lead to beautiful memories.
Love takes some time. It’s an emotional experience you’re going on with someone you care for. If you can’t stop dreaming about someone special, give them a second chance and do it again. The worse thing that can happen is that things don’t turn out. Often you would have to give it one more chance to be able to find the closure you’re going to need to pass to the next chapter for someone else. Most days, it’s the second time things pan out and come together as they should.